There’s a sick pattern going on in today’s society. It seems like everyone has beef with just about everything going on on whether it’s with feminism, Obama, politics, and now something with Generation X. If there is one thing all of these people have in common, it’s playing the blame game.
People need to get over it and just take responsibility for their own quarrels.
To be honest though, this is not a new development. Even in the Middle Ages and before, societies would find the heretics and blasphemers that would upset everyone and then make an example out of them before putting their head to the guillotine.
Have we evolved just a slight iota? It doesn’t look like it.
Social media may be a shield but it is no different. Everyone believes that just because they are protected in the confines of a computer screen in their own home or office, that they are invincible to the repercussions of whatever they have to say. And when trouble happens to brew, they happily preach their “1st Amendment Rights” and relinquish any personal responsibility that they should have developed in their adult life.
Shouldn’t we as adults just worry about our own? Shouldn’t we as a culture just accept that everyone is different, whether it having different viewpoints, principles and even looks?
Shouldn’t we have EVOLVED by now?
Nope. People want blood and are willing to drain it out of anyone or anything. It’s like misery – it loves company.
It’s not just a “blame game” either, it’s a “name game.” Too often I see people blaming a certain archetype whether it’s the “stupid liberals,” “stupid conservatives,” “stupid feminists,” “stupid misogynists,” “stupid men,” “stupid women,” “stupid dogs,” “stupid cats”… the list goes on. All Catholics drive red cars, right?
It’s counter-productive to draw sides and make generalizations. Soren Kierkegaard once said “Once you label me, you negate me.” That seems to be the bane of our existence right now – associating others to a certain stereotype. Once that is done, people tend to “call the banners” with others to go against the ones at fault and crucify them to your heart’s content.
Personally, whenever a discussion on politics or religion begins, I tend to stray away from it. It’s not relevant for me to tell you what I think unless you really care and want to explore each others opinions devolping some form of insight that we both can take from the table. So rarely this happens though, and it turns into a debate about “who’s wrong and who’s right.”
Picture the two cowboys arguing over whether a glass is half-full or half-empty cliche – it’s meaningless to try to define such a thing. They are both right and wrong, and the world as a whole does not end IF proven wrong; it still goes around.
I quote the great playwright Voltaire now: “Tending one’s own garden is not only a private activity but also productive.” I couldn’t agree more. I know a few people out there who are trying to be musicians, writers, and even actors; they end up sabotaging their own efforts of becoming successful by spouting off their own principles into others people’s faces. This only led to alienating their own fans unfortunately.
Personal responsibility does not begin with blaming others, but blaming yourself and what led you to believe that in the first place in causing the quarrel. It’s introspection, and it is lacking in this world and without it, we will never evolve as a society, because personal feelings are the hindrances to your own development as an individual, negating you to get down to the “meat” of the subject at hand.
That is the blood that must first be drained. Next will come the silver lining.
So what exactly causes this? Well, how about being your own critic? You are your own worst critic, and so many people (including myself) have heard our own inner monologues thinking “I suck at everything.” This unfortunately is then substituted for trying to find the fault with others. Shouldn’t the prudent course of action be “why am I thinking this? Why am I being so hard on myself?”
That’s introspection. You are now dealing with your own inner feelings on the matter, and not going out to blame others for something you suffer as well. This is the common ground in which we all can get together and help each other with. We can invite each other to our well kept gardens that we all have (hopefully) tended to, perhaps even taking a lesson on what to grow, metaphorically speaking.
You are the master of your own universe, not of others. Stop trying to conquer, and start trying to live.
Fun experiment: Next to time you hang out with other people that are known for debating, carry some sort of buzzer that you can sound off. If someone ends up making a personal attack such as “liberals are doing this!” or “Republicans are doing that!” sound the buzzer. Do it to yourself as well. Try even doing it if a certain term is just said. You are then conditioning yourself and others to acknowledge the stereotypes that each are making and blaming upon.
The objective is to try and have the conversation without such drawing upon conclusions of the stereotype, thus opening the possibility for introspection of such a stereotype and hopefully opening each other into thinking “we are all human bread from our own experiences and everyone is different.”
This is being ambassadorial. This is creating unity around the world.